Stop the bullets 2

To stop bullets shot towards the body might be difficult, even for the most pure identity. But to shield ourselves against abuse is not that difficult.
If the big and brute person A tries to abuse the small and fragile person B, it is likely that the person B will feel sad.
But the fault in the situation is altogether with the person A. He is actively doing something bad. And that is his problem. Later on, someone will abuse him.
If B sticks to his identity, the abuse has no target. There is no reason to feel abused or sad.
But in our culture we do not identify identity in this distinct way. So it is easy for B to lose concentration and identify himself in a way that makes him vulnerable.