Happiness, the dynamics 2

The paradox of happiness is that we have to give it, but we can not be given it.

In order to be happy ourselves, we have to have the intention of helping others to be happy. If we just want happiness for ourselves we will not get it. In particular we will miss it if we hurt or mistreat others in order to get happiness ourselves.

It is like money. If we help others to become rich, we become rich ourselves. If we like some dictators try to be rich by stealing from the citizens the result is sad for all, even if the stolen sums are huge.

A symbol for doing good is giving things to the poor. It is not bad, and the receivers might appreciate what they get. But it is not certain.

Happiness is never in a gift but in the mind of the person. If the conditions for happiness exist in the person, anything will trigger that happiness. If might be a small gift, a huge gift or no gift at all. The happiness is in the mind.

But if the conditions for happiness are lacking in the mind, no gift will give happiness.

On an existential level, we can say that all human beings already are given more than needed for perfect happiness for ever. The reason we do not see it thus, is that we close our mind by not including all in our wishing well.