Deactivation 2

If our self is under attack, we defend it by reflex. The stronger the attack, the stronger the defense.

But we have no self. It is an artificial construct. 

If our self is not under attack, we can see that it has no existence. We can joke about it and about ourselves.

The self is an idea of ourselves be build in order to do things. We need preservation and self confidence in order to do anything in this world. Everything we do meet friction and opposition.

So we create this hypothetical identity. It has no reality. So it is extremely vulnerable. It will break at any challenge. 

When it breaks there is normally strong feelings. But if we knew from the beginning that the self was just a construct, we would not be sad when it breaks.

This does not mean we have the right to break the self of others. We have no right to hurt the body of others and no right to hurt the self of others.