Rule one 2

Rule one in mind minding is really the no rule. It is for the situation where there are no rules. It is for the pre rule situation. The moment before rules are formed.

So the rule one is awareness awareness. It can handle anything. It means to be aware of what we are aware of.

In difficult situations we often lock our mind in a stiff position. We hold our position. This is the opposite of mindfulness.

To be aware and mindful is to see things from all sides and from all different aspects. 

If we have this whole picture, we can often see possibilities and solutions. 

However, awareness can desert us in the moment we need it most. 

But to find the perfect word after some time, when we are leaving the party, is better than nothing. In mind we can restore order once we  get the proper awareness. But the sooner the better.