Alternative to anger 2

Non-violence is not very potent when a conflict has occurred. It should start much earlier, and thus the conflict should have been avoided.
This is an idealistic analysis in a world that is loaded with conflict. The focus is on winning rather than avoiding conflict. Sometimes conflict is even good-humored. We try to live with conflict. It is like an incurable, widespread mental disease with occasional eruptions.
Non-violence should be the starting point in everything we do. We start new things every second. We can start non-violence now.
Ideas are always true to their origin. If we start from non-violence, the end result will be non-violence. If we start from violence, the result will be violence, even if we say we seek peace and harmony. It is extremely difficult to change from violence to non-violence in the middle of a process.
A difficulty is that others might interfere. If the others use violence, we might look like a victim if we do not react in the same way. This is a primitive form of cooperation. It can be nasty as long as it lasts, but it is not eternal.
Another difficulty is the extreme attractiveness of non-violence. If a group trained in violence meets non-violence, the natural reaction is just to kill it out of pure raw attraction. The rational reaction is of course to learn non-violence.
When we meet external situations we use ready-made reactional patterns. If anger is such a pattern, we might find many uses for it.
To learn non-violence patterns is hard work. Why should we invest in this kind of work?
We know why when we have made it.

Mutual trust

The difference between mind logic and body logic is quite obvious in military contexts. The military activity is traditionally body activity and mainly material.
In society in general, it is probably sports and the military who continues to focus on the body most of all. Almost all other activities are turning more and more to mind. Physical work is now done by robots or heavy machinery.
There are so many differences between body and mind.
Body activity is analogue - the more strength the better. Mind is digital - the result is not better if you press the button forcefully instead of mildly. The longer you do a body work, like digging a hole, the deeper it gets. For mind the important aspect is to do the right, which might take just a second.
There are many other differences between body logic and mind logic.
One issue is about security and the experience of security.
Military security is traditionally to have the most of men, guns and ammunition. Existential security is mutual trust. No weapons are needed.
For civilians who are not trained in military security it is difficult enough to trust in mutual trust. For those who are trained in military thinking it could be even more difficult.
So here we are ... the world will be safe when those who are trained not to trust in trust starts to trust trust more than weapons.
So, when will the world be safe?

Satisfaction

If our basic needs of health, food, shelter, sex and social acceptance are not met we might suffer a lot. But in order to be satisfied, we have to fulfill compassionate ideals.
Compassion is important.
We all have to decide about the relations between egoism and compassion in our basic ideals in life. It is an internal conflict. We might try to avoid it by thinking "God will..." or "I am as I am..." or "social custom is..."
Nevertheless, the question can be asked and must be answered. The ideals we have should be decided by ourselves.
In this internal debate, the awareness of the importance of compassion is...good to have