Alternative to anger 2

Non-violence is not very potent when a conflict has occurred. It should start much earlier, and thus the conflict should have been avoided.
This is an idealistic analysis in a world that is loaded with conflict. The focus is on winning rather than avoiding conflict. Sometimes conflict is even good-humored. We try to live with conflict. It is like an incurable, widespread mental disease with occasional eruptions.
Non-violence should be the starting point in everything we do. We start new things every second. We can start non-violence now.
Ideas are always true to their origin. If we start from non-violence, the end result will be non-violence. If we start from violence, the result will be violence, even if we say we seek peace and harmony. It is extremely difficult to change from violence to non-violence in the middle of a process.
A difficulty is that others might interfere. If the others use violence, we might look like a victim if we do not react in the same way. This is a primitive form of cooperation. It can be nasty as long as it lasts, but it is not eternal.
Another difficulty is the extreme attractiveness of non-violence. If a group trained in violence meets non-violence, the natural reaction is just to kill it out of pure raw attraction. The rational reaction is of course to learn non-violence.
When we meet external situations we use ready-made reactional patterns. If anger is such a pattern, we might find many uses for it.
To learn non-violence patterns is hard work. Why should we invest in this kind of work?
We know why when we have made it.