Feeling control 2

The feelings we will experience in the future are decided by many factors, and it is difficult to get perfect control. But we can get comparatively good control.
Our potential for experiencing feelings is decided by our actions now. All actions count - thoughts, words and acts. Big projects are more important than single impulses. Things we do with intense energy and enthusiasm are more important than things done without stamina. The important factor is what we actually do, not what we imagine we do.
(Sadly we sometimes prepare for a lot of negative feelings by actually thinking about revenge, violence, hurting others, using others and the like.)
The relation between our actions now and our future feelings is impossible to see. But it is there, in our mind. Every bad action will give bad feelings later.
We get what we deserve, and if we deserve positive feelings we will get them independently of circumstances and independently of the will of other people.
When we get bad feelings, it is unbearable, and we might try to blind ourselves by finding some artificial excuse. If we do, we are likely to get more bad feelings in the future.