Self awareness 2

If we analyze self we can arrive at a very spacious, transparent construct which seems to be almost no self at all.
This is more true than our spontaneous idea of self as something solid and constant. This solid self suffers from change, and the reality is in constant change.
When we are criticized or threatened, our self contracts. This self is geared for desperate defense.
Normally when we meet people we can expect the false solid self or the agitated but contracted self.
The analysed spacious self is more rare.
Sometimes we meet people who are "unspoilt" - naturally open, generous and trusting. This is very nice, but these individuals are more vulnerable than those with an analysed self.
In difficult situations - potential conflicts - we need to be open, generous and trusting. But spontaneously we might feel threatened. Then our self contracts and we might become hostile.
So our spontaneous reactions can be destructive.